Whine and wine. A symbiotic relationship? Causal? Recursive?
"How many bottles of wine do you need in the cellar to deal with the ___ year old who whines?"
All kidding aside, are there moments when you want to tear your hair out? bang your head against the wall? or just walk out the door and let the spoiled rotten, ungrateful, ANNOYING offspring just fend for themselves? Check, check, and check. Oh but wait, social services. And crap, you do sometimes love that little bugger. WHAT DO YOU DO?
TRY THIS: Time outs are not just for kids. Give yourself one. "Mommy needs a time out. There is a lot of whining and complaining going on and Mommy is getting a little frustrated. I am going to go into my room for 5 minutes for a time out so I can think about the situation instead of getting angry. When I come back, lets talk about the problem with our happy voices and figure out a solution."
NOT THAT: You are driving me crazy with the whining. You know that I don't react to whining. It makes me angry and frustrated. You have everything that you could possibly want. Why do you have to ask for things in a negative way? Why can't you ever say please or thank you. And why do you have to whine. Did you not hear me yesterday when I said very clearly NO WHINING? It's annoying and you are not getting what you want because you don't listen!
WHY? By giving yourself a time out, you are modeling appropriate anger management AND you are giving yourself some space so you can breathe. A time out is about re-setting the clock. Starting over with a fresh outlook. Reflecting. You are giving your self the opportunity to relax and indirectly, you provide your kid the opportunity to also re-focus.
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